Well, where Ron/Hermione is concerned, it's BOTH of them hurting each other, but in kind an innocent way for the most part (minus the birds, which Hermione did, not Ron) more like, "I don't know how to show you that I like you". So no, I don't see Ron as an abuser.
In the first Harry and Hermione story I wrote, I think one of the good things about the story (and I was 11 at the time so the story sucked) was how I portrayed Ron's reaction to them being in a relationship. He was like, "What?" and was kind of annoyed at first because hello, is it going to be awkward for him? How is that going to affect their relationship with each other? Then he was OK with it. But it's hard to find fic where the Weasleys aren't bashed so much or where Ron isn't a huge dick who used spells to get Hermione to like him. That makes me MAD because Ron IS a good guy who sometimes get things wrong. I think that in the books, he liked Hermione, and Hermione liked him, but I just never saw it working out as a long term relationship. Because, like you said, who you're with in HS isn't always who you're with for the rest of your life.
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Date: 2010-12-06 11:36 pm (UTC)In the first Harry and Hermione story I wrote, I think one of the good things about the story (and I was 11 at the time so the story sucked) was how I portrayed Ron's reaction to them being in a relationship. He was like, "What?" and was kind of annoyed at first because hello, is it going to be awkward for him? How is that going to affect their relationship with each other? Then he was OK with it. But it's hard to find fic where the Weasleys aren't bashed so much or where Ron isn't a huge dick who used spells to get Hermione to like him. That makes me MAD because Ron IS a good guy who sometimes get things wrong. I think that in the books, he liked Hermione, and Hermione liked him, but I just never saw it working out as a long term relationship. Because, like you said, who you're with in HS isn't always who you're with for the rest of your life.